Maybe it was when staying late at work became more important than eating dinner together.
Maybe it was when the kids were first born and you both felt like you were in survival mode, just trying to make it to the next day.
Maybe it was when your partner stopped listening to you and just started looking through you when you spoke.
What I often find when a couple comes into my office saying that they feel like roommates is that there wasn’t one big event that led them to this place: It happened bit by bit over the course of many months – or even years. Like death by a thousand cuts.
How can we fix our marriage?
I know marriage counseling sounds scary. The thought of going to see a complete stranger and then having to share things that maybe only you know about can be pretty intimidating.
I also see a lot of couples where one partner is really pushing for counseling, but the other partner wants nothing to do with it.
It’s not that they don’t want to work on their marriage, but the last thing they want is for someone to point out everything they’re doing wrong in their relationship.
Thankfully, I’m not that kind of therapist.
Although your marriage is a long-term commitment, marriage counseling doesn’t have to be.
My goal for every couple I serve is for them to not need me anymore. Sounds pretty funny, right? Why would I want to work myself out of a job?
Because I know there’s a lot on your list, and I never want therapy to just be another weekly obligation.
By the time a couple comes to see me, they’re ready to get to work. They want to get in, get the tools they need to make their marriage better, and then get out.
I’m here to tell you that, as long as you’re both willing to put in the work, marriage counseling can transform your relationship. I’ve seen it time and time again.
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How Does It Work?
First, you’ll schedule your 10 minute phone consultation so that I can answer any questions you may have about counseling. If you decide to move forward, then you can schedule your intake session with me over the phone or online.
Prior to your first appointment, you’ll complete all of the intake paperwork using your own customized client portal.
There, you can complete all of your intake paperwork at your leisure from the comfort of your own home. There’s no need to arrive early to your first appointment, as I will already have had the chance to review your paperwork and learn about your unique situation.
The intake session is 1 hour and includes both of you.
This first session is not as scary as most people think it is. I spend most of the time just getting to know you and your relationship: I’ll ask questions about how you first met, what things drew you to one another, and then we’ll talk a little bit about the challenges that have led you to therapy.
At that point, we’ll come up with a plan for our time together, including a rough estimate of how many sessions to expect.
How Often Will We Need To Come?
All couples start at a frequency of one session each week, and sessions are 50 minutes long. You may also opt to extend your sessions on a case-by-case basis.
Once you and your partner are starting to see real movement in the quality of your relationship, then we begin tapering off by meeting every other week.
I do this to allow plenty of time for couples to practice using the skills they’ve learned in counseling. When you hit a bump or a roadblock, we’ll be able to process that together and troubleshoot.
Many couples complete therapy in a matter of 12-16 sessions (3-4 months).
Imagine feeling close again in just a matter of a few months. You both will have learned so much about each other — things that would have never come up had you not taken this step.
You’ll be able to openly share things with each other like you did in the beginning. You’ll actually desire each other again, and you’ll look forward to coming home to each other at the end of every day.
I can help you get there. Schedule your free, 10-minute phone consultation and get started today.