Sex & Intimacy
I would guess that you want to feel more close and intimate with your partner, but something is holding you back.
Maybe you just don’t desire sex the way you used to and you feel guilty about it, shaming yourself for the fact that your libido has decided to go on a sabbatical with no return date in sight.
Or maybe you and your partner have felt disconnected for a while and the idea of introducing sex back into your relationship is intimidating and – let’s be honest – a bit terrifying.
Then there are the couples where the disparity between what you think is“enough sex” and what your partner thinks are like night and day. Sex sometimes feels like a tug-of-war between someone who wants more of it and someone who could do just fine with less.
If any of these scenarios ring true, couples counseling can help.
Myths About Sex In Long-Term Relationships
Unfortunately, we’re given all kinds of messages about sex in relationships that simply aren’t true. Here are just a few of the ones I hear every single day from couples:
- “Sex stops after kids.”
- “Men just want to get off; they don’t care about connecting emotionally.”
- “If we have sex more often, that means our relationship is healthy.”
- “Sex is always better in the beginning of a relationship.”
- “Sex has to always be spontaneous to be good.”
I often find that, once I’m able to debunk a lot of these myths for couples, they immediately feel a sense of relief about their sex lives. There’s still work to be done, but
How Does It Work?
First, you’ll schedule your 10-minute phone consultation so that I can answer any questions you may have about counseling. If you decide to move forward, then you can schedule your intake session with me over the phone or online.
Prior to your first appointment, you’ll receive a link to your own customized client portal.
There, you can complete all of your intake paperwork at your leisure from the comfort of your own home. There’s no need to arrive early to your first appointment, as I will already have had the chance to review your paperwork and learn about your unique situation.
The intake session is 1 hour and includes both of you.
This first session is not as scary as most people think it is. I spend most of the time just getting to know you and your relationship: I’ll ask questions about how you first met, what things drew you to one another, and then we’ll talk a little bit about the challenges that have led you to therapy.
At that point, we’ll come up with a plan for our time together, including a rough estimate of how many sessions to expect.
How Often Will We Need To Come?
All couples start at a frequency of one session each week, and sessions are 50 minutes long. You may also opt to extend your sessions on a case-by-case basis.
Once you and your partner are starting to see real movement in the quality of your relationship, then we begin tapering off by meeting every other week.
I do this to allow plenty of time for couples to practice using the skills they’ve learned in counseling. When you hit a bump or a roadblock, we’ll be able to process that together and troubleshoot.
Many couples complete therapy in a matter of 12-16 sessions (3-4 months).
Imagine feeling close again in just a matter of a few months. You both will have learned so much about each other — things that would have never come up had you not taken this step.
You’ll be able to openly share things with each other like you did in the beginning. You’ll actually desire each other again, and you’ll look forward to coming home to each other at the end of every day.
I can help you get there. Schedule your free, 10-minute phone consultation and get started today.